Time and Process

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It is very rare that success is an accident. More likely success comes from being in the right place, at the right time, and taking the right action. Essentially it takes time and process.

Time is the measuring of periods between one event and another or between actions and its perceived consequences. Usually, we associate time with the clock and calendar. In life-planning, time includes the period between now and the most distant future event you can imagine as well as whatever increments between those endpoints you determine are useful in the manifesting of your goals.

A process is your observation of, and interchange with others or yourself. There are two types of process: individual and group. Sometimes the individual and group may converge on certain issues and diverge on others.

As an individual, you ‘process’ your thoughts, feelings, and attitudes. You observe them internally in the constant dialogue that goes through your mind. As a member of a group, you may ‘process’ common interests, attitudes, and observances. You will either agree or disagree with others, and they will either agree or disagree with you.

Time and process are frameworks for understanding your personal experience relative to others.  It assists you in allocating your resources, paces your actions and ordering your priorities.  Time and process facilitate your success.

You may find that your viewpoints about time and process often limit your experience and create boundaries that prevent you from being successful. Procrastination is a viewpoint about time with which you may be familiar.

Sabotage is a viewpoint about the process. It denotes a belief that you are best served by hampering or subverting the actions of yourself or others.

As we endeavor to establish timelines for our goals we are encouraged to be flexible. as the precise timing of life plans, are often mysterious. Just understanding this to handle the feelings of disappointment and frustration when events do not meet your schedule.

Sheila Giddings


Clarifying your values Pt2

I hope you were able to identify the values that reflect you. Today I will complete the listings and hope you can add a few of your own.

Intellectual stimulation, interpersonal relations, intimacy, involvement

Joy, lack of pretense, laughter, leadership, leisure, life, life insurance, literature, love, lover, loyalty, managing, mastery, materialism, maturity meditation, mentoring, metaphysics, military, millions, modesty, money, morality.

National security, neatness, new car, nonconformity, nurturance, obedience, order, outdoor life, ownership, participating with others, patience, peace, persistence, personal development, philanthropy, philosophy, play, pleasure, politics, possessions, power, process, production, professionalism, prosperity.

Reading, rebellion, recognition, religion, religious belief, reputation, respect, respectfulness, responsibility, retirement, rewards, riches.

Satisfaction, schedule, security, self-expression, self-reliance, self-satisfaction, servants, sincerity, social life, social power, social recognition, social relations, space, spirituality, sports, stability, stamina, standing up for beliefs, status, stimulation, suburban focus, success, survival.

Taking risks, teamwork, technique, tenacity, tradition, tranquility, travel trust, truth, truthfulness.

Urban focus, urban living, wealth, welfare, well-being, who’s who, winning, wisdom, work, youth, zeal, and zest.

That’s it my friends. Please go through the list and tick those values that you mean a lot to you, and which deep down you care for and aspire to achieve.

Next, you will prioritize these value, and put them in order. Welcome feedback.

Sheila Giddings




Clarifying Your Values

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The next exercise in charting your goals is clarifying your values. We all do not have the same values. And very likely we have values that we are not even conscious us. This exercise will, therefore, cause you to quietly reflect and to choose those which are more important to you.

The exercise is a 4 column full page listing. In this post, I will list the first two columns from A to I. I found it quite interesting reflecting on these. Hope you will too.


accomplishment achievement activity admiration advancement advantage affluence advocacy, ambition, age, authority appearance, authority art artistic expression.

beauty belonging business career, caring, challenge, charity, clarity, close -friend, competition conformity, college degree, competition, conservation, consistency control, country living, crafts, creativity, credit, culture.

decisiveness, dining out, discipline, dominance, drama.

eating, economic security, education, employment, endurance, energy, enjoyment, enterprise, equality, environment, experience,

faith, fame, family, flamboyance, free choice, freedom, friendship, fun, G0d’s will, good income, gracious living, guiding.

happiness, healing, health, health insurance, helping others, high standards, holiness, home, honesty, honour, hope, humility, humour.

imagination, impulse, income, independence, individualism, influence over others, inner direction, inner harmony, innovation, insurance, integrity.

In my next post, I will continue the list of values. Meantime as an exercise identify those value characteristics that speak to you.


Sheila Giddings



Charting Your Goals

I found this great self-development do -it- yourself workbook at the thrift store. It is entitled “Charting your Goals” by Dahl and Sykes.

Sometimes we take the things that happen in our lives for granted. But I have come to understand and now believe that not even the chance encounters are ordered.

I say this because I needed to have a conversation with myself about my goals. I was lead to this book. This was what I needed. Have you ever experienced this kind of thing happening to you before?  Tell me about it, I am really curious to hear.

If you have been following my blog I have gotten somewhat sporadic about my writings. Remarkably before I even found this workbook I started writing with this very same title. I didn’t get very far because my computer started acting up and before I could settle to write, my page disappeared. I was really disappointed. I noted to myself that I must remember to save as I write.

There are numerous personal life-goal planners and self-development books on the market. But for one dollar I am happy with my investment.

This book contains self-directed exercises that will help you achieve your personal and business objectives in the areas of career, health, relationships, finances, personal growth, and values clarification.

There is not a specific order to complete the exercises but I started with the values clarification section. I believe that a lot of the roadblocks in my personal development have been due to conflicts with my values. In other words, my long-term goals and objectives go against, contradicts my fundamental values. So what do we mean by values?


“Values are standards or qualities which you consider worthwhile or desirable. Values help you to establish your sense of purpose and direction and act as a guidepost that assists you in measuring the quality of your life”.

It is very important to understand your values as it gives you insight into your decision-making process. Every day we are confronted by many choices, most of which require almost no thought. You respond to them intuitively. Other however require careful consideration, a quiet reflection. Your personal values influence both your intuitive and intellectual decision making.

If you make a decision that is consistent with your values you will experience a sense of comfort that you made the right choice. If however your decisions are not aligned with your values, you will likely experience a sense of discomfort and concern.

One example cited in the book relates to someone having good health as an important value while at the same time is a cigarette smoker. The inherent conflicts may force the smoker to rationalize their decision which in turn set up internal contradictions. Until there is a resolution there will be tension or stress which the contradiction creates.

The above example while intuitively appealing means little to a non-smoker like myself. However, one example that comes to mind, is the desire to have wealth, riches and a fat bank account, while at the same time extol humility, sobriety and simplicity. That definitely seems conflicting and resonates with me. The stress and tension this anomaly creates resonate with me. I, therefore, need to spend the time to think about my own values. I need to ask myself what is really important to me? What brings me true satisfaction?

In my next blog, I will tell you how we can clarify our values. If you find this interesting as I am, then feel free to send me a feedback.


Sheila Giddings


Are you a Caregiver?

A counter response to the caption question would be, Who is a caregiver? The illustration below is taken from https://www.caring.com/articles/caregiver-burnout


Caregiving is best defined by what the caregiver does. If she is involved in caring for people with disabilities; people with mental illness; people who are chronically ill; people who are terminally ill or suffering from life-limiting illnesses; people caring for older persons who are having difficulties coping with activities of daily living any of the above qualifies, as a caregiver.

Caregiving can be incredibly rewarding — but it’s also hard work, physically and emotionally. If you don’t take enough self-care to replenish yourself, then caregiver stress, anxiety, and depression can build.

“Caregiving requires a certain amount of selflessness, but it’s important for caregivers to know their limits,” says Ken Robbins, a geriatric psychiatrist at the University of Wisconsin who’s also board certified in internal medicine. “Caregivers can become so focused on the person they’re assisting that they neglect their own needs.”

Caregiver burnout interferes with your ability to function. Burnout also raises your risk of chronic depression and other mental and physical ailments, from hypertension and flu to diabetes, stroke, or even premature death. Caregiver burnout is also a leading cause of nursing home placement when run-down caregivers become too depleted to manage caregiving demands.

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